Assalam Alaikkum,
Dear Brothers / Sisters,
Ramadan Kareem!
Most of us forward each and every article to all their friends, even that is not useful to our Muslim ummah, I would request you to kindly spread the news of free matrimonial function for physically challenged. I am not organising this function to promote our service, but I am the person who is meeting the physically challenged single Muslims and their parents, and see cry them. I feel that since I am in this domain, why not take the initiative to help the needy Muslims (we are already giving free service to physically challenged Muslims and Orphans), since I never come across any such Muslim gathering in Tamil Nadu or in India specifically for physically challenged Muslims organised. By establishing this centre for matrimonial purpose, I am planning to conduct more programmes / workshops to promote family importance / reduce divorce rates / help parents who are not willing to/receive dowry to promote Islamic nikah / conduct one-day workshop for single muslims before their marriage and convey the importance of marriage life in Islam, conduct programmes that would concentrate the Muslim parents and teach them how to raise children, importance of manners and education. If it is to promote my services, I can just go for major advertisements and get benefit, but that won't help me on the day-of-judgement. I feel proud that the Almighty Allah choosen me to be a part on this noble cause. Although we have sent newsletters to more than 1000 mosques to search any physically handicapped, so that they may get benefit from this noble cause, I learned that most of the mosque presidents / secretaries not displayed the newsletter on their mosque or announced. Since I spent important age range 19 - 28 in Gulf countries, I fail to understand the mentality of this people, who are using the Almighty Allah's mosque just for name sake and not with social mentality. The people here are not much encouraging. The surroundings and comments made by people, are forcing me to think, whether I should look everything at the business perspective and not with social cause. The reason for sending newsletters to mosque is whether atleast one person from their area may benefit from this noble project. Till date, we have not received single application from the people who are willing to marry such physically handicapped, except a divorced woman's mother who came to meet me today at 8:00am, whether she can bring her daughter to the function, she was crying while describing about her daughter. It has become to day to day life for me to meet such people, I feel that being in this field I can do much to the community. I am not worried about the comments, because my intention is whether somebody may benefit and I can be a helping hand for them to bring smile on their family with the help of Almighty Allah, but continuous comments making me to think whether I should conduct such programmes in future and why should i take the initiative and get hurt later. Yesterday during the ifthar time, when I heard from somebody that I am doing this to benefit for my services, I really felt sad thinking that how many people might think like this, being in this field, should I not do this kind of jobs or think good to promote family importance etc. but after breaking the fast when I turned back, three blind Muslims, holding one another hand tightly to not to miss in the crowed was walking just next to me made me to think that Yes, definitely I need to do something for this people. The good deeds with good niyyah will help me at the aakirah, inshaAllah.
Anyway brothers, i need your helping hand to help the physically challenged Muslims, so far I have received nearly 35 applications, inshaAllah further more are expected. But I have not received a single application from people who are willing to consider them. The wakf board has not provided the entire addresses of tamil nadu and it has taken nearly one and half month to get the addresses of the mosques, under the Right to Information Act, but that too they provided only those mosque addresses who are paying more wakf money. Hence, in this crucial time, as the time is very limited, I seek everyone's help to spread this message through emails, groups, blogs, or any means of source. You may do this atleast for thanking the Almighty Allah for giving us good health and not keeping us to suffer in our day to day life.
Kindly spread the message about the programme... your advises about how to reach out the needy people are most welcome. I need everyone's help.
May Allah SWA guide our souls on the righteous path giving us increased Taqwa and eemaan and may He accept all our prayers Insha-Allah. Ameen
Jazakum Allah Khair
Syed Peer G.
Nikah.com Centre
No.54, 3rd Floor
Mosque Complex,
L.B. Road,
Adyar,
Chennai - 20
Tel : +91 44 455 11 460 / 470
--- On Tue, 23/9/08, Nikah Care <nikahcare@yahoo.com> wrote: From: Nikah Care <nikahcare@yahoo.com>
Subject: [tmmkriyadh] Free Nikah Camp for Physically Challenged Muslims
To: tmmkriyadh@yahoogroups.com
Date: Tuesday, 23 September, 2008, 8:00 PM
Assalam Alaikkum,
Dear Brother / Sisters in Islam,
We at Nikah.com, conducting a camp for Physically challenged Muslims to find their life partner...
Islam greatly encourages marriage because it shields one from and upholds the family unit which Islam places great importance. Marriage is a religious duty and is consequently a moral safeguard as well as a social necessity. Islam does not equal celibacy with high "taqwa" / "Iman". The prophet has also said, "Marriage is my tradition who so ever keeps away there from is not from amongst me".
Alhamdulillah, the Almighty Allah has bestowed us good health and everything, even though we are searching for a suitable life partner spending years. Consider about Physically handicapped Muslims, they and their parents are undergoing trauma on their day-to-day life. Most of the Physically challenged are dependent on others, and particularly the parents of girls suffer a lot, thinking who will accompany their daughter after their death.
We have started Nikah.com Centre in Chennai and Madurai recently to help Muslims who do not have internet facility. Nikah.com centre does not encourage dowry systems, allow parents to talk to each other without any third party, no commission or no brokerage fee. Nikah.com Centre started with aim to reduce the divorce rate among Muslim community, also to encourage the parents to not to fall in dowry systems. We provide free service to the Physically challenged Muslims and Orphans to find their life partner. Also we do not charge poor Muslim families. In order to help everyone in their search of suitable life partner, we are requesting each and everyone whether they will consider for physically challenged, but none of them willing to marry them. The parents of physically challenged visiting us with great pain, with hope that whether our service can help them to complete half of their deen and reduce their pain.
In order to help them to find a suitable life partner, we at Nikah.com arranging free matrimonial camp, here in Chennai on 12th October 2008 at Adyar Kurasani Peer Mosque, so that all the single Muslim handicaps can join in one place and find suitable life partner.
We are not only inviting single Physically Challenged Muslims, but also those Muslim brothers and sisters who are willing to marry them for the sake of Almighty Allah.
We have been constantly advertising about this programme on Tamilan TV every Friday at 11:30am (IST) in our Nikah Medai programme, that is being telecast to help Muslim parents to select suitable life partner for their son or daughter.
Due to the frequent powercuts, we are unable to reach the needy people hence we have contacted Wakf board to provide us the Mosque addresses, but they did not issue all mosque addresses only few counting to less than 300 across Tamil Nadu. Alhamdulillah through our other resources, we have sent out messages to nearly 1000 mosques, in Tamil Nadu to reach out the needy.
Hence, we are reaching this groups medium members to convey this message to needy Muslims and particularly your friends who are willing to marry such handicapts for the sake of Allah.
We greatly need each and everyone's help to make this event successful to help our physically challenged brothers and sisters to see smile on their faces and make their parents atleast happy after their years of pain.
If you know any Physically challenged Muslim in your friends circle, relatives, or you know people who are willing to marry them, kindly ask them to contact us on +91 - 44 - 455 11 460 or +91 44 455 11 470.
The last date for accepting applications is 1st October 2008.
Note : At the event, on 12th October 2008, we need to provide free lunch to the Physically challenged and their parents, as they cannot go out (as many of them cannot walk). We seek generous brothers help in this regard. If anyone willing to take this responsibility Alhamdulillah fine. We can send you the bills for reference.
May Allah SWA guide our souls on the righteous path giving us increased Taqwa and eemaan and may He accept all our prayers Insha-Allah. Ameen
Jazakum Allah Khair
Syed Peer G.
Nikah.com
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About Nikah.com : Nikah.com provide matrimonial services to Muslims around the world, while maintaining Islamic sharia strictly. It does not allow members to contact each other for friendship or penpal relationship. Photos are stricty monitored for decency and allow female members to lock their photos and show only to a particular member, whom she wish to. All the security protocols on place to trace the frauds thus providing secured environment for single Muslims to find suitable life partner.
Recently Nikah.com established Nikah.com Centre to assist Muslim parents, who do not have Internet facility or do not wish to publish their details on Internet. Our aim to introduce Nikah.com Centre is to help the Muslim parents to find suitable life partner for their son / daughter. The brokers are encouraging dowry system, so that they may benefit from the commission and they do not introduce bring good alliance for Muslim sisters who deny to pay any dowry. Moreover, due to elaborated words and hiding truth, we see increase in divorce rate.
In order to tackle all these issues, and more over involve in community works through concentrating in Muslim families and particularly educating women the importance of marriage life etc., we are planning to conduct series of family oriented programmes. Today there are so many forums are there, everyone concentrating only on Muslim youths and the care they do to strengthen family bond is only through bayans. After leading couple of month marriage life, more couple are turning to counseling centers for divorce. The counseling centers in return advice the couple about the marriage importance etc. This counseling is being given only when they have achieved the mentality to annul the marriage. We do not believe that this type of advice will help the couple to join in family life fully compatible. Hence, what are planning to do is to conduct one day work-shop for Muslim women in each and every district three or four months once in a large gathering.
Apart from money issues, or worldly things, the family life and compatibility should be encouraged between the couples. Most of the couples do not know the importance of marriage in Islam. Most of the couple fail to understand each other and thus forcing them to divorce without thinking about their children life. It is sad to note that after we started the Nikah.com Centre, the women with divorce are more and also the women who educated high pursuing many more degrees and longing to get married. If a person is divorced and is in within 30 years, he is again going for unmarried girl, if we receive three applications two will be for unmarried and another one will be of divorced. By avoiding the divorce, are going to create good Islamic community. So, in order to reduce the divorce rates within our community, we plan to educate the Muslim women, at first, and help them through professional Physiologists comprising religious knowledge women. Teach them importance of married life, how to go with mother-in-law, and relatives. How to raise children and how to control them, how we should handle them to teach good habits, teach them the importance of deeniath studies and also worldly studies. By conducting qirath competition between children, a mother will take the motivation to make her children to study Quran so that they also can join in qirath competition. Muslim women are mostly spending their time in home, starting from morning - preparing food, preparing children to go school, assisting husband and then doing all domestic work, preparing lunch, so this keep going on without end... this type of mechanical life surely will increase stress and then bursting their anger on mother-in-law / husband / children etc.
Our Muslim brothers in abroad, may have realised that the forigen companies take their employees for outing or get to gather in a party in the name of recreation. This type of outing or parties reduce a person's stress and make more energetic. Similarly we plan to conduct workshops that will reduce our Muslim woman's stress. They may also poses great talents, if we give them one day leave from their day to day work and we take all necessary steps to guide them, and try to speak with them through women scholars and phycologists, if the daughter-in- law and mother-in-law has issues this can be helped by the counseling committee and give proper advice to them so that they may go with each other compatibility.
How to raise Children, explaining the importance of religious studies, worldly studies, will greatly help Muslim mothers to build a better community tomorrow.
Teachings like behavior towards elders, husband, how to cope with other relatives etc. will help them to build better family. This will reduce the divorce rates among our Islamic community.
This type of family workshops are great hit in UK and USA. Why dont we try this, we already know the output by attending the company parties and then the second day onwards give more output because of the stress that was relieved previous day..
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One more importance factor for concentrating Muslim women means, to try to bring their husband who are behind money for years...
While going aboad everyone claim that they will stay there for 2 years and will earn sufficient money and will return back to home country... In 100 not even 0.1% people adher to their promise.. If they are having family status abroad then it ok, but without family they think that money is the only importance in life and nothing else... Remember Hinduism does not encourage family life, Chiristanity encourage women to go nun, Buddism does not encourages for family life... ONLY Islam encourages family life and our Prophet Muhammed (PBUH) life style and Quranic verses teach us many more importance of family life, but we are behind money, he does not do his job as a husband, he does not do his job as a father, he does not do his job as a son to his parents.. Weekly one phone call satisfies him of everything.
Our brothers should understand the importance of life, we should consider this life as an examination hall. We all have different question papers to write, a poor person got his question paper about how he will remember the Almighty Allah when he faces problem, how he take care of his family, how he behave with others when he is in problem, the rich got a question paper about how he will spend the money etc. The subjects we have here are How a person should behave with parents, how to take care of family life, how to go with his soul mate, how to raise the children that would benefit him at the life hereafter, how to behave with relatives, how to behave with neighbors etc... At exam halls we will only have the question papers, we do not have any answer books. But in this worls, the question paper is given to us at the age of 6 and the answer books are available to us anytime through Quran and the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammed SAW. So whenever we need any guidance, we can just verify and lead our life..
But what our brothers are doing in abroad is they consider only money as their life time goal, I agree that everyone has some responsibilities such as sister's marriage etc. But are we going back to our normal life once the high profile responsibilities are over, are our brothers are taking care their wife properly.. are they are sharing any burden over how to raise the children, is he a role model for his son? are he guiding his children in a proper way when they follow wrong paths.., is he taking care of his wife's needs... as like you she also has feeling.. Remember our Prophet Mohammed (PBUH) has paid much importance towards his family life..
Money plays importance role, but it is not everything.. . you cannot bring back your youthful life once you earned money.. you can accompany your child to school when he sees other children come to school accompanied by their fathers.. you cannot bring back the social status when our Muslim women are eyed by khafirs and they fall into their trap. We can raise so many questions such as, but it would bring more shame to us.
Only our Muslim brothers claim that they dont have a proper job in India. Remember, when comparing with Hindus we are minority, so similarly they should have majority in abroad works also, but it is not the case, AT foreign jobs, we are majority.. Why they are not staying in India? Are they also conclude that only going abroad will solve their problem? No.. they do any type of job to stay here and they come up in life.. We start to run away from life at youth age and keep on running till the foreign company say get out by showing superannuation reason... when we are back after spending nearly 15- 25 years, are we going to get back the love, the youthfulness, a caring father, actually he will not show much love towards his children and just by mechanism when compare with a person, who spends his day-to-day with his children. Moreover the children also will not have much love towards their father... If their father is here and the children see how he is suffering to raise them then they will have more respect and love towards him, but when they seem him two years once just like vacation... a person cannot expect their full love..
Women also plays important role in keeping their husband abroad, so through family life importance, we can make them to realize the importance of family life and they will have the courage to encourage their life partner to settle down in home country..
In short we wanted to focus on the roots of tree instead of focusing the top leafs directly...
I would like to have your comments / suggessions regarding the women's programme. I feel this kind of programme can be arranged in each and every district with a gap of 4 to 6 months time period. Its a big project, and its not a one man show, hence I expect valuable suggessions / comments in this regard.
I started this session to explain about Nikah.com Centre, but ended up with other topic. InshaAllah, we will take this project soon and expecting our community peoples help to build better generation tomorrow...
At present we are conducting a free matrimonial alliance meet for Physically challenged Muslims, next we are planning to conduct for orphan women then at January we will having the Muslim women workshop at Chennai or Madurai (If we have been supported by the community).. because even while doing this good cause of helping physically challenged, many people wanted to benefit out of it for their own, believing that we are conducting this programme to build our brand name. Alhamdulillah, the aim for helping physically handicapped was started few years before... inshaallah, we hope the Almighty Allah will help us in this noble cause.
Pray for us brothers...
Your Brother in Islam
Syed Peer G.
Managing Director,
Nikah.com
Rib Matches Private Limited,
No. 54, 3rd Floor,
L.B. Road,
Adyar,
Chennai - 20
Tel : +91- 44 - 455 11 460 / 470
Pers : +91- 44 - 435 11 550
Note : At the event, on 12th October 2008, we are planning to provide free lunch to the Physically challenged and their parents, as they cannot go out (as many of them cannot walk) attendies . We seek generous brothers help in this regard from our brothers. If anyone willing to take this responsibility Alhamdulillah fine. We can send you the bills for reference. We feel approx. 500 to 700 people may attend this event. Approx. Rs.30,000 to 35,000 may require.
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